“kayi vaar mai apni zabaan te kaabu pa lainda ha, par kayi vaar idda laggda hai ki mai bina soche-samjhe apna muh khol dinda ha!”—james.

 jado mai chinta vich hundi ha, taa mai bina soche-samjhe boldi ha atey jado mainu koi pareshani nahi hundi, taa mai kujh ziada hi bol dindi ha. kehen da matlab mai hamesha hi galat keh dindi ha.—mari.

 bible dassdi hai: “jeebh agg hai.” atey “dhyaan dyo ki ik chhoti jehi changyaarri poore jungle nu saarr ke suaah kar sakdi hai!” (yakoob 3:5, 6) kee tusi hamesha apni gall karke museebat vich fas jande ho? je ha, taa eh lekh tuhadi madad kar sakda hai.

•  mai galat gall kyo keh dinda ha?

•  jeebh te lagam pauni

•  tuhade hani kee kehnde han

 namukammalta. bible dassdi hai: “asi sare jane kayi vaar galtiya karde ha. je koi bolan vich galti nahi karda, taa oh mukammal insaan hai.” (yakoob 3:2) insaani kamzoriya karke sirf turan vele hi thokar nahi laggdi, sago asi bolan vele vi galat gall keh dinde ha.

 “namukammal dimag te jeebh hon karke mere layi eh kehna moorkhta hai ki mai ihna te poori tarha kaabu paya hoya hai.”—ana.

 bahut ziada bolna. bible kehndi hai: “gappa de vadhe vich apradh di kami nahi.” (kahauta 10:19) jehrre lok ziada bolde te ghatt sunde han, oh aksar apnia galat galla naal doojya nu thes pahunchaunde han.

 “hamesha bolan vale lokaa nu sara kujh pata nahi hunda. yisu dharti te rehen vala oh insaan si jis nu sara kujh pata si, par oh kadi-kadayi chupp reha.”—julia.

 chubhviya galla. bible dassdi hai: “besoche bolan vale diya galla talvar vanngu vinnhdiya han.” (kahauta 12:18) besoche bolan di ik misal hai, chubhviya galla yani doojya nu thes pahunchaun te neeva dikhaun valiya galla kehniya. jehrre lok chubhviya galla kehnde han, oh shayad kehen, “asi taa sirf mazaak keeta si!” par doojya nu neeva dikhauna koi hase vali gall nahi hai. bible sanu kehndi hai ki asi ‘gali-galoch karno hat jayiye, nale har tarha di burayi nu apne to door rakhiye.’—afsiya 4:31.

 “mai bahut ziada mazaak karan te doojya nu hasaun di koshish kardi ha. mazaak-mazaak vich mai chubhviya galla keh dindi ha jis karke mai aksar museebat vich fas jandi ha.”—oksana.

 shayad eh gall sikhni aukhi hove ki jeebh te kive lagam pauni hai, par bible de asool saddi madad kar sakde han. misal layi, hetha likhiya galla te gaur karo.

 “apne mana vich socho atey chupp raho.”—zaboor 4:4.

 kayi vaar kujh na kehna hi vadiya hunda hai. laura naa di ik naujavan kudi dassdi hai: “gusse vich mai jis tareeke naal mehsoos kardi ha, shayad baad vich mai os tareeke naal mehsoos na karaa. shant ho jaan to baad mai aksar khush hundi ha ki mai oh nahi keha jo mai kehna chahundi si.” sirf kujh skint chupp rehen naal hi tusi koi galat gall kehen to bach sakde ho.

 “bhala, kann galla nu parakh nahi lainda, jive talu apne khane da suaad chakh lainda hai?”—ayoob 12:11.

 tusi haddo vadh museebat vich pain to bach sakde ho je tusi ihna savaala di madad naal “parakh” karo ki tuhade mann vich kee hai:

•  ● kee eh sach hai? kee is naal mai pyaar dikhavanga? kee eh kehna zaroori hai?—romiya 14:19.

•  ● je koi mainu idda kahe, taa mainu kidda da laggega?—matti 7:12.

•  ● kee mai doosre viakti de nazriye prati aadar dikhavanga?—rom 12:10.

•  ● kee eh gall kehen da sahi sama te jagah hai?—updeshak di pothi 3:7.

 “nimar bann ke doosrya nu apne nalo change samjho.”—filippiya 2:3.

 eh salah doojya prati sahi vichaar paida karan vich tuhadi madad karegi. is karke tusi apni zabaan te control rakh sakoge te kujh bolan to pehla sochoge. chahe tusi bina soche-samjhe thes pahunchaun vali gall keh ditti hai, taa vi nimarta maafi mangan vich tuhadi madad karegi. nale eh gunn tuhadi jaldi to jaldi maafi mangan vich madad karega! (matti 5:23, 24) fir agli vaar apni zabaan te lagam paaun da irada karo.