parivar di madad layi | viahuta jeevan
dheeraj kive paida kariye?
“har roz pati-patni de dheeraj di parakh hundi hai. kuaare hundya shayad tuhanu lagge ki dheeraj rakhna koi vaddi gall nahi hai, par viahuta jeevan safal banaun layi eh bahut ziada zaroori hai.”—john.
tuhanu dheeraj dikhaun di kyo lorr hai?
viah to baad tusi apne jeevan saathi diya kamiya-kamzoriya vall ziada dhyaan den lagg sakde ho.
“viah to kujh same baad apne saathi de auguna ’te dhyaan launa saukha hunda hai. is tarha da galat ravaiya rakhan karke tuhade layi dheeraj rakhna aukha hunda hai.”—jessena.
dheeraj na rakhan karke tusi shayad bina soche-samjhe gall karo.
“mai apnia bhavnava nu jhatt byaan kar dindi ha, kayi vaar taa mai oh galla keh dindi ha jo mainu nahi kehniya chaheediya. je mere vich ziada dheeraj hove, taa mai soch sakdi ha ki koi gall kehni zaroori hai ki nahi atey mai shayad kujh na kehen da faisla karaa.”—carmen.
bible dassdi hai: “pyaar dheerajvan atey dyaalu hai.” (1 kurinthiya 13:4) eh mann-na sahi laggda hai ki do pyaar karan vale insaan dheeraj dikhaunge. par hamesha idda nahi hunda. john, jis da pehla zikar keeta gaya hai, dassda hai, “hor change gunna di tarha dheeraj dikhaun di bajaye dheeraj na dikhauna saukha hunda hai. dheeraj nu vadhaunde rehen layi mehnat karan di lorr hai.”
tusi dheeraj kive dikha sakde ho?
jado achanak tuhade dheeraj di parakh hundi hai.
misal: tuhada saathi tuhanu bina soche-samjhe kujh keh dinda hai. kudarti taur ’te tusi vi os nu ose tareeke naal javab dena chahoge.
bible da asool: “tu apne ji vich chheti khijh na kar, kyo jo khijh moorkha de hirde vich rehndi hai.”—updeshak di pothi 7:9.
dheeraj kive dikhayiye? thoda ruko. kujh vi kehen to pehla apne aap nu yakeen divao ki tuhada jeevan saathi apnia galla naal na taa tuhanu thes pahunchauni te na hi tuhadi beizzati karni chahunda si. apne viah nu bachauna (angrezi) naa di kitab kehndi hai: “sadde vicho ziadatar jane apne jeevan saathi diya galla da ulta hi matlab kadd lainde han.”
chahe tuhada saathi tuhanu gussa charhaun di koshish kar reha hove, taa vi tusi dheeraj dikhaudya it da javab pathar naal na de ke halaat sudhar sakde ho. bible kehndi hai: “jithe balan nahi uthe agg bujh jandi hai.”—kahauta 26:20.
“je tusi apni patni nu apna dushman samjhan lagg painde ho, taa ruko te socho ki tusi os nu kyo pyaar karde ho atey ikdam os layi koi changa kamm karan di koshish karo.”—ethan.
zara socho:
tusi odo kee karde ho jado tuhada saathi tuhanu rukhe tareeke naal kujh kehnda ja kujh karda hai?
agli vaar idda hon ’te tusi hor ziada dheeraj kive dikha sakde ho?
jado ikko gall karke tuhade dheeraj di parakh hundi hai.
misal: jado tuhada saathi hamesha tuhanu intazar karvaunda hai, taa tuhanu gussa charhda hai.
bible da asool: “tusi ik-dooje di sehnde raho atey ik-dooje nu dilo maaf karde raho.”—kulussiya 3:13.
dheeraj kive dikhayiye? apnia lorra nalo ziada apne rishte diya lorra nu pehel den di koshish karo. apne aap to puchho, ‘kise gall ’te behes karan naal sadde rishte ’te changa asar pavega ja maarra?’ nale yaad rakho ki “asi sare jane kayi vaar galtiya karde ha.” (yakoob 3:2) is da matlab hai ki tuhanu vi kayi cheeza vich sudhar karan di lorr hai.
“kadi-kadayi mai apne pati nalo ziada apni saheli naal dheeraj naal pesh aaundi ha. mainu laggda hai ki eh is layi hunda hai kyoki mai apne pati naal ziada sama bitaundi ha te os diya kamiya-kamzoriya dekhdi ha. par dheeraj dikha ke mai zahar kardi ha ki mai apne pati nu pyaar kardi ha te os di izzat kardi ha jo ki viahuta rishte vich bahut zaroori hai.”—nia.
zara socho:
apne saathi diya kamiya-kamzoriya dekh ke tusi kinna ku dheeraj dikhaunde ho?
tusi bhavikh vich hor ziada dheeraj kive dikha sakde ho?